If I told you forgiveness is a limitless act, you may want to debate me on that point. Today I want us to go through this subject together. The call to forgiveness is a universal one. I believe God in his wisdom knows how beneficial it is to our health and well-being. In my last blog, we explored some steps which can lead us to forgiveness; now that we have allowed the pain, anguish, and disappointment to surface and be dealt with, lets lay some glue to the issue so we can keep forgiveness in its rightful place. I am excited to read your comments at the end of this blog, This being a very sensitive subject, Feel Free to share with me via email as needed.
THERE WILL BE UPS AND DOWNS
I chose the image above among many, my reason for this is, the road to forgiveness is not a straight one as depicted in most images. The road is rough, there will be mountains and valleys, highs and lows. The journey begins with the decision to let go of the pains of the past so you can forgive, no easy task at any rate. This process can at times feel like a roller coaster; one day you will decide to forgive the next day, you just might change your mind. There were times I cried out in anguish after the trauma of my first marriage. For me there was no question about it, I will never forgive him I became convinced, he did not deserve my forgiveness. To be honest, the only thing which allowed me to give in, was facing reality – forgiveness is not for the other person; it is for me. That did not make it any easier but I was on my way. There were day I would feel the disappointment and anger, those were my lows, I would speak to myself to bet back up again. It did get easier with time, I promise you that it will get easier for you.
IT IS NOT ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL
The climax comes on the days when you feel like giving up. That’s when you must speak to yourself, speak to someone you trust who will give the needed support. Here is where you have to accept that it’s not about the way you feel. Feelings will come and they will go. Feelings will tell you a number of stories; the favorite stories you will have to battle are, one they don’t deserve your forgiveness, the other you don’t have to do it now, you can do it sometime in the future, Don’t fall for those lies, you are forgiving for you not them and you have to do it now; the longer you hold on unforgiveness the more damage it does to you, physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. The beauty of it is, when you have been healed by forgiveness, you will get to enjoy that positive feeling, go for it!
There will be times on your road to forgiveness when you will feel like you are in a tug-of-war.
You feel like you are in a war against yourself.
You feel like, if you let go of the level of control you have gained, you will crash
The fear will try to overtake you, to be honest sometimes it will
PERSISTENCE – that’s the key, hold on to the vision, of being FREE, and do not let go.
Hold on – don’t give up
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
The scriptures tell us, when the disciples questioned Jesus about forgiveness, his answer baffled them. They were not prepared for the response he gave. WOW, that seemed like a tall order. Let us look at lessons we can learn from that encounter.
1* The value of forgiveness, Jesus sole character is wrapped up in forgiveness, he forgives us even when we do not deserve to be forgiven. Jesus represents unconditional love which is evident by his ability to forgive.
2* There is no limit to forgiveness, (Luke 17:4 KJV) “Seventy times seven in one day”; that’s how often he told them they should forgive. To me, that means there is no limit. There will be the persons who truly pushes you to the max, you forgive them, they offend you again and again. Hello, we are still called upon to forgive them, each and every time.
3* If we want forgiveness we must also give forgiveness ( Mat.6:12-14 KJV) it’s a principle of sowing and reaping, do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. I know, you are tempted to say “I would never do something like that” My mother always says “never say never” In any given situation we act, there are times we surprise ourselves at the choices we make. If for any reason accidental and all, you find yourself needing forgiveness. I am certain you will appreciate it being extended to you.
4* This is a principle which was enacted thousands of years ago. It is nothing new. Many have worked this road before, many are walking it now. You are not alone.
As we depart for this week I want you to take a moment, relax, listen to your favorite music or go for a walk after reading. Allow yourself to breathe. You should be commended, for your willingness to heal to become a better and wiser you. Forgiveness is a process and it takes personal time to heal forgive and recover. Do not allow yourself to fall into the trap of listening to people who say “you should forgive him/her by now” pat yourself on the shoulder you are willing and open to forgiving that someone who wronged you. I commend YOU!
Leave your comments I am happy and willing to learn from you.
Love & Blessings
Suzanna, Founder Break Every Chain