The Heart Of A Sister Family Foundation, spent the past two weeks as one of the facilitators in the Ministry of Gender Youth and Child Development; Adolescent Intervention Program. This program was conducted in some primary schools for the students who wrote SEA. It’s a commendable effort, one which will positively affect the lives of our children. There are some parents who will find these last few months before secondary school to be the last time they will see their precious Jack, Jenny or Jill as a child, this phase in their lives is quickly approaching its end.
Over the years I have arduously observed the phenomenal change which takes place in a child’s life between the ages eleven to thirteen. A metamorphosis occurs, which is not always for the better. Are we preparing our children for these life changes and likewise are we prepared to assist them during this new phase of their lives? We tend to blame it on the school and its environment. This, of course, is a contributing factor, but as parents, we must be mindful, there are natural developmental stage in the life cycle of an individual which must occur, Parents, you must take time to sit with your children to explain the important changes which will be experienced and what to expect. It is your responsibility to feed them with good reliable information. The last thing you want is for them to gain the wrong information in the wrong place from the wrong persons. The stage of adolescence is a confusing time in the life of a child.
The ministry brought in a balanced diet of physical, mental, and psychological development information for these young persons. They needed to be told; “boys your voice will change”, “girls you will soon experience having a period” they must be though pubic hair is a part of personal development, increased personal hygiene is needed and the crazy signs of hormonal changes; their increased interest in members of the opposite sex. Parents that’s your role, sit your child down, tell them what to expect in their own bodies, and of course the best response to these changes.
At each school we visited the cry was the same, it broke my heart to hear these young people say “I don’t like myself, or I am ugly”. Why are we breathing a society of young people who lacks self-worth? This is the door that’s wide opened to be used by opportunists who will step in to advantage these vulnerable lives, can I say innocent bystanders. Instill in your child the
confidence the belief, they are special, there is no one else like them. Nothing is wrong in being different. Teach them to stand up for something so they won’t fall for anything. My heart truly yearns for them. I wish I could take them in my arms and speak life into them, just to make them believe they are God’s idea, God don’t make mistakes he does not make junk.
We saw children filled with so much potential, doctors, lawyer’s teachers, engineers, pilots, businessmen, women, and farmers. The class was surprised one day when one of the boys said he wants to do farming. I took that moment, to share with them the importance of agriculture as a profession. Highlighting the high level of our import bill which can and should be reduced, agriculture and farming must be seen as a profession of high quality.
They are failing to see the rich potential they possess, the value of their existence. We must be careful as a society to nurture a healthy sense of self-worth within them, from the moment they breathe their first breath. Allow them to gain a sense of personal identity refuse to cut them down with that bitter award of criticism and comparison. Why is it so much easier to speak negativity than to uplift? It takes seven good statements to cover one mad statement. Parents, caregivers, educators, children are Gods gifts entrusted to us. Let us take the time to invest all, the positive we can find, into their hearts and lives. They already have to compete with the social media, the entertainment industry, peer pressure; others wise which constantly lies to them about who they should be. The only power strong enough to combat that influence is, THE POWER OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE –YOUR LOVE!
Love & Blessings
Suzanna Founder Break Every Chain